Anyone who knows anything about the Black Keys knows there’s no such thing as a bad Black Keys song. But there are some that are played more than others. This one is fresh to my ears and rich in badass guitar and bass, enough to make your Sunday less puritanical.
I wasn’t sure how my life would change when I decided to stop drinking. But I wanted to try so I could see for myself.
Reading. I read again! When I was drinking, I didn’t read. I’d read tidbits of a book and keep one by my bedside but it was more like a visual prop back then. Now if it’s on my bedside table it’s because I’m reading it. And here’s the thing about reading. I can literally feel parts of my brain light up that had been in darkness for years. It’s like opening windows and airing out rooms. Letting in the wind, sun and rain of imagination.
Sobriety (especially the early kind) can be incredibly lonely and painful. You need to figure out new ways of relating to people. You need to leave some people behind. New friendships, with healthy people who aren’t in active addiction, take time to find and sober bonds take time to form. So many feelings that had been pushed down with booze and other substances start to surface, so early sobriety is also a very emotional time. At times it feels almost unbearable.
There’s also the matter of long-term celibacy. They say you should take at least one year off from forming any new romantic relationships. I’m gunning for at least two. It takes time to figure out who you are, let alone what you want in a partner. This article on being loved by (and as) someone in active addiction is a helpful and eye-opening read.
Early sobriety is tenuous. It must be protected and safeguarded. People from the past are delegated to people you’ll miss and care for but can’t have in your life. And sometimes that hurts like hell. There were nights, especially in the early months, where I literally cried from loneliness. Loneliness is now alone time and it’s my favorite part of the day and night. Self-care is something I figured out along the way and it’s something that is continuously refined.
Those are just
some of the things.
There are the obvious benefits. of course. The weight loss and overall improved mental and physical health. The no more sick days (work and otherwise), the clarity, being present for work, friends and family. Most of all, figuring out who you are and what you love. The self-discovery is immense in recovery, especially as time starts to stack up.
Who knew “one day at a time” could be such a rich, harrowing and fulfilling journey?
Today’s Song of the Day is brought to you by Rival Sons. I listened to this one repeatedly during times of struggle (around sobriety and life in general) so I’m filing this under survival. Want to know more about Rival Sons? Click here.
This is a survival anthem if ever I heard one. This is their song, Keep on Swinging.
The longer I blog the more I consider my three buckets and how I *might* need more. It’s true that not ALL survival songs are sobriety songs. Some are. But some are just about plain surviving, sobriety aside. Other songs are clear sobriety songs for me. Case in point, this one.
I listened to this song when first embarking on my journey and the lyrics really spoke to me. That longing to be free. That “desire chip,” if you will.
Today’s Song of the Day is brought to you by super group The Dead Weather. Time to shake up your Thursday!
I went through a pretty serious Dead Weather phase last year. It’s the best “I’m angry, dammit” music. It was empowering at the time and necessary. Nowadays, since I’ve tenderized, it’s a bit too hard on my ears and nerves. But this particular song, Blue Blood Blues, was one I played on repeat for a while.
To learn more about this super group (not to be confused with super food), click here.